Flexing Your Flexibility Muscle

January 5, 2019

I’m lying on a yoga mat, attempting to extend my right knee across my left leg while simultaneously keeping my right shoulder planted on the floor. Breathing through this twist will apparently relieve stress, improve circulation and free my mind of unwanted thoughts. And all I can think is… I wonder when was the last time anyone washed this mat? And it’s my mat, so, really… I should know the answer. 

Flexibility flexing your flexibility muscle

Did I mention I’m not a yoga person? I’m a Type A, Operating in a State of Crazy, “This-is-who-I-am-and-you-can’t-change-me-so-don’t-even-try” kind of person.

Now I’m in a phase in my life defined by curiosity. I’m learning that maybe I’m not exactly who I always claimed to be. Maybe there are pockets of me left to discover. A better me. Maybe this rigid way I’ve defined myself isn’t the best at all. And that discovering who and all I might become requires extending outside of my comfort zone. You know, being a little more… flexible.

Since I see stories everywhere and symbolism in those stories, I’m taking my own advice off the mat and into other areas of my life. How does an inflexible person become more flexible? And what are the benefits of doing so?

For answers, I turned to Fran Keogh, a business coach who helps her clients turn limiting beliefs into increased revenue and sustainable success.

Fran keogh flexing your flexibility muscle

Fran Keogh

A lifelong learner, Fran has served as a development director for public radio, a voice-over artist, a culinary arts student, a holistic health coach, and even an alpaca farmer. Yes, an alpaca farmer. Fran “rewired” herself in middle age, studied husbandry, and for six years owned an alpaca farm.

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Fran Was, For Six Years, An Alpaca Farmer

“I like to try different things,” she says. “I see possibility everywhere. I’m always going, always creating.” Somewhat fittingly, she is also a yoga teacher. Who better to help explain the benefits of flexibility?

Fran uses a holistic approach to her client’s needs to open them to new ways of thinking so they can make more money and create the freedom to do what they love. She says flexibility is about letting go of the need to have control whether you’re an entrepreneur trying to find your niche or a corporate climber dealing with reorgs and a micromanaging manager.

Fran cites a few reasons we become inflexible in our approach. Which ones are familiar to you?

We’re overly focused on the outcome.

We can prepare as much as possible but can’t always control the outcome. “When you are fixated on the end result, how is that serving you?” Fran saysA certain amount of experimentation is necessary for success. If we’re afraid to try different things, we’re not stretching to our full potential.” Fran points out that trying to rigidly control an outcome not only creates stress, but it might also lead to overlooking other opportunities. “Save space for serendipity to show up,” she advises.

We’re creatures of (bad) habit.

We have to be open to coaching and change. “I see so many people who have habits that keep them from moving forward,” notes Fran. “So if you are accustomed to doing things a certain way and it’s not working, you have to be willing to adjust the habits that are holding you back.” One of the most common habits is holding onto an outdated mindset that no longer serves us. Sort of like insisting, “I’m a Type A person who can’t slow down to do yoga” when, in fact, I can…

We’re perfectionistic.

Inflexibility is the sign of a controlling person. “Why do you feel the need to be in control?” asks Fran. “Often it’s around things like fear of failure. The perfectionist piece becomes a form of procrastination. It keeps people where they are because it’s safe.” Fran says accepting revision and even failure is part of the process.

We’ve stopped learning.

Every experience and situation presents an opportunity. “When we think we know it all is when we stop learning and rigidity can set in,” Fran says. “We have to keep growing, doing the work, and moving forward.”

Fran keogh yoga flexing your flexibility muscle

Fran Keogh, Business Coach, Is Also A Yoga Instructor

So how do we flex our flexibility muscles? Fran recommends different tools for different people. It starts with acknowledging resistance to change and ultimately comes down to practice. “People say ‘I can’t do yoga because I’m not flexible,'” she explains. “But that’s why you do yoga, to become more flexible. It’s a shift in mindset.”

Business, she says, is very much like yoga. “You have to be grounded, yet willing to bend,” Fran says. “You want to be solid in your foundation and not uproot yourself from who you are and what you want to accomplish, but remain flexible to what comes up.”

It sounds like solid-core work to me. With a nice stretch built in. And I’m ready to get to work.  But Fran warns us to be flexible in our approach to flexibility. If we push too hard on the yoga mat and we strain a muscle, we’ve done too much, too soon.”

So here I am, trying to coax that leg to the other side of the floor and twist just a bit further than last time. Staying strong but flexible. And it feels pretty good, this openness to both my hip and my mind. I don’t even smell the mat anymore. I’m focused on the task at hand, but flexible to all that might arise. 

How about you? Where have you been too rigid or holding on to an outdated mindset? Where can you be more flexible in your approach?

For more on Fran Keogh check out her website: https://frankeogh.com and follow her on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn.

Valerie gordon web3 flexing your flexibility muscle Valerie Gordon is an Emmy-winning television producer, author, and founder of The Storytelling Strategist. She speaks at conferences and works with corporations training audiences on the power of story for career success and satisfaction. A former control freak, she’s learning to be more flexible. 

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